Friends after children!

OK so once you've picked yourself up off the floor from laughing at the prospect of having a social life after children there is a few things I have learnt. 

 Ollie is now 17 months old, i like to think i am a good mom but my social life and friends seemed to have suffered. 

 When you have children, replying to a text or commenting on something funny on Facebook kind of goes out the window, you don't have time to browse. 

You can't drop everything at the drop of a hat to go for drinks, go dancing or on a shopping trip. 

Some friends get this. 

You have some that also have children, and appreciate that three line text they got last month. That’s enough to stay connected. 

Others will just understand children are hectic; she'll get back to me when she can, and they won't take it to heart.

Then there are the friends that just don't get it!! To quote one of my oldest friends. 

"Nothing will change when the baby comes, s/he will just have to work around you"

Needless to say i haven’t seen them much in the past 18 months. 

Don't despair if your friends are more like the latter. 

Your social groups will change. 

Personally I've found friendship in baby groups and through talking to other moms on twitter. 

That trendy bar you used to hang out in will become the local park or a local baby group. 

You'll find you BFF will probably become the mother/father of the child your little one gets on with the most. 

That's ok, they are on your wave length, they understand the struggles motherhood brings. 

And to the ones that don't understand, just be there, silently waiting, for the moment they have children.....

Then they will understand and you may be the one friend they have who is there with them.